Wednesday, June 22, 2011

One Year Ago...

One year ago today we finally finished our dossier paperwork and went on the waitlist at #61 for infant girl and #24 for siblings.
  To be honest, it's hard to believe it's been a year already!  I doubt many in the adoption world would say their time on the waitlist flew by, but it really has for me.  (So far!)  We joined the waitlist long before we were actually ready for a referral, hoping by the time we were ready we'd be towards the top of the list.  Well, today I can finally say with complete confidence...I am ready!  We're moving to our new house next week (with an extra bedroom for 1 or 2 more kids) and our littlest man just turned 2 and is becoming less high maintenance every day. 


Moving will require us to update our homestudy (and pay more $, ugh), but shouldn't be a huge deal.  So, bring on the referral!  Today we're #13 (#5) on infant girl and #4 (#1) on siblings!

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Getting Close!

Yes, I've been a bad blogger...so I thought I should at least update where we are in the process.  It's been an active few weeks and right now we're sitting at #4 for siblings and #15 for infant girl. 

One aspect of the waitlists that I should probably mention is there are families that are "on hold" as well.  This can be because they've gotten pregnant while waiting, having financial issues, personal problems they need to iron out, etc.  They can stay on the lists and move up, but can't accept a referral until they are able to come off hold status.  Although it can change at any time, right now I believe there are 8 families on hold in front of us on the baby girl list and 3 families on the siblings list.  Sooooo...if you take them out of the equation, we're unofficially #1 on siblings and #7 on baby girl!! 

Our referral could be anywhere from next week to next year (given the ebb and flow of this process), but thinking it'll be sooner rather than later!

Thursday, January 20, 2011

The "Other" List...

So, by now everyone knows we're on the infant girl list...that's the list we talk about, blog about and think about daily.  What you may or may not know is that we're also on another waitlist.  The sibling list.  That's right, there is a possibility that we could be bringing not 1, but 2 beautiful kids home from Ethiopia!  Is that thought making you hyperventilate and causing your hands to shake uncontrollably?  Probably not, but it did have that effect on us and that's why we've kind of swept it under the rug and put it way in the back of our minds.

At the beginning of this journey we struggled with wondering if our daughter would feel connected living here in a primarily white city, as part of a very white family.  We thought that possibly having a sibling with the same background would help with that feeling of "belonging" as they grow older.  So, we also joined the sibling list, requesting infant twins...not because we thought it was something we realistically wanted, but because we couldn't ignore that Whisper in our ears.

Now, as the sibling list moves closer and closer, we've had to do some soul searching and think about if we could really handle 4 kids and what effect that would have on our family unit (besides the obvious of needing a bigger house and car!).  In the end, we both came to the same conclusion that having 2 birth and 2 adopted kids would be amazing and challenging and fun and insane and ultimately sooooo worth it!  I'm not sure what changed in us, or why...but now (most days!) I think we're secretly rooting for the siblings list...so much so that we changed our request to any siblings under 36 months.  It's important to us that Colby stays the oldest sibling, but otherwise we're wide open!

Obviously, young siblings don't come along all that often so it's still a toss up on which waitlist we'll get our referral from...but as of today we're #30 on infant girl and excited to say we're #8 on siblings!!  We can't wait to see God's plan unveil!

Friday, January 7, 2011

Merry Christmas!

Today is Christmas in Ethiopia!  As we inch closer to seeing our daughter (#34 now) I find myself wanting to learn more and more about the culture and history of her birth country.  Here's a little info on how Christmas is celebrated in Ethiopia (copied from TLC Family). As more than half of the country is Christian, Christmas is a major celebration for them with Christ, rightfully, at the center of it all.

Christmas Traditions in Ethiopia


Ethiopia is one of the oldest nations in Africa. It still follows the ancient Julian calendar, so Ethiopians celebrate Christmas on January 7. The Ethiopian Orthodox Church's celebration of Christ's birth is called Ganna. It is a day when families attend church.

The day before Ganna, people fast all day. The next morning at dawn, everyone dresses in white. Most Ethiopians don a traditional shamma, a thin, white cotton wrap with brightly colored stripes across the ends. The shamma is worn somewhat like a toga. Urban Ethiopians might put on white Western garb. Then everyone goes to the early mass at four o'clock in the morning. In a celebration that takes place several days later, the priests will dress in turbans and red and white robes as they carry beautifully embroidered fringed umbrellas.

Most Ethiopians who live outside the modern capital city, Addis Ababa, live in round mud-plastered houses with cone-shaped roofs of thatched straw. In areas where stone is plentiful, the houses may be rectangular stone houses. The churches in Ethiopia echo the shape of the houses. In many parts of the country there are ancient churches carved out of solid volcanic rock. Modern churches are built in three concentric circles.

In a modern church, the choir assembles in the outer circle. Each person entering the church is given a candle. The congregation walks around the church three times in a solemn procession, holding the flickering candles. Then they gather in the second circle to stand throughout the long mass, with the men and boys separated from the women and girls. The center circle is the holiest space in the church, where the priest serves Holy Communion.

Around the time of Ganna, the men and boys play a game that is also called ganna. It is somewhat like hockey, played with a curved stick and a round wooden ball.

The foods enjoyed during the Christmas season include wat, a thick, spicy stew of meat, vegetables, and sometimes eggs as well. The wat is served from a beautifully decorated watertight basket onto a "plate" of injera, which is flat sourdough bread. Pieces of injera are used as an edible spoon to scoop up the wat.

Twelve days after Ganna, on January 19, Ethiopians begin the three-day celebration called Timkat, which commemorates the baptism of Christ. The children walk to church services in a procession. They wear the crowns and robes of the church youth groups they belong to. The grown-ups wear the shamma. The priests will now wear their red and white robes and carry embroidered fringed umbrellas.

The music of Ethiopian instruments makes the Timkat procession a very festive event. The sistrum is a percussion instrument with tinkling metal disks. A long, T-shaped prayer stick called a makamiya taps out the walking beat and also serves as a support for the priest during the long church service that follows. Church officials called dabtaras study hard to learn the musical chants, melekets, for the ceremony.

Ethiopian men play another sport called yeferas guks. They ride on horseback and throw ceremonial lances at each other.

Ganna and Timkat are not occasions for giving gifts in Ethiopia. If a child receives any gift at all, it is usually a small gift of clothing. Religious observances, feasting, and games are the focus of the season.

Monday, November 29, 2010

Hmm...

Our huge win (whomping/spanking/domination) against the Gators this weekend makes me really want to buy this dress...but I guess it's probably a little too soon.  Still sitting at #39. {sigh}

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Ahhh, caffeine!

I love my coffee and look forward to it every morning. Brogan knows about 8 words...one of which is coffee. He points to my cup every morning, gets a big smile on his little face and says "coffee!". Love it!

We're finally in the 30s! 39 to be exact. Now I can start obsessing until we get to the 20s. ;)


So, we have our TIVO set to record everything related to Ethiopia.  Recently that included an episode of Modern Marvels...not typically my type of show.  It's a guy's show.  One Steve likes and watches when he's traveling (when he doesn't have to listen to me complain about how boring it is and wouldn't "we" rather watch House Hunters International or Project Runway?).

Anyway, since this one was about two of my favorite subjects...Ethiopia and coffee...I allowed it.  ;)  Did you know coffee was discovered in Ethiopia?  Legend has it a goat herder noticed his goats got very jumpy after eating the "cherry" beans off the trees.  The first human consumption is believed to be by the Oromos tribe in Ethiopia.  They would cook the raw coffee beans in fat, squeeze them into a big ball and just gnaw on it.  During slave trades, the Oromos brought the beans to Yemen...and from there it went around the world.

So now every morning as I'm drinking my coffee, I can't help but think about my daughter.  As I'm sipping and savoring, I take a minute to tune out the 2 adorable screaming boys in the background and say a quick prayer for her and her birth family.

Thanks for reading...and tomorrow morning as you enjoy your cup of coffee, please join me in saying a prayer for our little one and all the other orphans as well.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

A Beautiful Walk

So, there was a flurry of referrals earlier in the month and I've been holding off posting in hopes that we'd be in the 30's for this post. (Why does 39 sound so much lower than 40??)  At any rate, we haven't moved much at all the last few weeks and I know you have all been missing my deep insight (humor me) so here we are at number 42.  Not too bad though, I'll take it!

A few weeks ago Steve and I watched an amazing documentary called A Walk to Beautiful.  It follows the journey of 5 Ethiopian woman who suffered horrific childbirth complications that resulted in them being shunned from their villages and forced to lives of shame and loneliness.  When they hear about the Addis Ababa Fistula Hospital, they each decide to make the long journey to the capital city in hopes of regaining their dignity.  The story is told through their eyes and with their voices.

While people in the US argue over natural vs. drugs vs. c-section, it's a reality check on how truly blessed we are here.  It's really an interesting and eye opening (and yes, short) film that I'd highly recommend everyone see.  It's on PBS occasionally, but we got it from the library. 

Though the hospital has over a 90% success rate, there are some cases that require long-term care.  These women are invited to live at Desta Mender (Village of Joy), a gorgeous 60-acre farm village at the foot of a mountain.  There they are given not only treatment, but trained in a variety of income producing trades...from nurses aides, to gardening, to sewing, etc.

Recently Desta Mender created Juniper Cafe, an outdoor restaurant, where the women who were trained in cooking/catering serve lunch to convention meetings and visitors.  Some other adoptive parents have said it's an amazing place and we definitely have it on our (growing) list of "must-dos"!

A Walk to Beautiful