Friday, December 30, 2011

Ethiopia - Day 1

We're here! After a 28 hour journey, we made it to Addis Ababa, Ethiopia! Our plane landed at 7 AM, which is 9 PM at home...and despite all the Tylenol PM and No Jet Lag, neither of us slept on the plane and both had quite a bit of jet lag!

We got checked into our hotel. We had gotten lots of advice from new friends who are also adopting from our agency about what to bring and what the hotel has and doesn't have...so we knew we should bring extra toilet paper, our own shampoo and hand soap. I am, however, shocked that they all failed to mention our night stand would be stocked with a lifetime supply of condoms! Definitely not in America anymore! ;)

Anyway, after we got settled our agency's Ethiopian staff picked us up to take us to the care center...we finally got to meet our daughter! The whole experience was just surreal...the drive through the city (ugh...more on driving here another time), the gates opening, going into the nursery, waiting for the nanny to change her diaper, and finally our beautiful girl was in our arms! The chubby cheeks, beautiful big brown eyes, little tuff of hair and cute fingers and toes we'd seen in so many pictures became a reality. We were there for 2 hours and she was so happy and content the entire time...and when one of her nannies talks to her she just lights up and jumps up and down, squealing. I love that she is so smitten with them!

Praying we get a good night's sleep tonight so we can start feeling somewhat normal again tomorrow!

Monday, December 26, 2011

A Bedtime Prayer

Tonight as we go to sleep, a young woman will be going before an Ethiopian judge and relinquishing all rights to the little girl she gave birth to 8 month ago.  I can only imagine this will be one of the hardest things she's ever had to do in her life.  It's been a really emotional day for me just thinking about what she must be going though during the long drive to the capital city.  (Watching We Bought a Zoo didn't help out my emotional state either!)  So, before you go to bed tonight, please say a prayer that peace and comfort would surround her.

 

There is also a possibility she could change her mind and decide to take baby girl home with her.  Honestly, we are so smitten with her already, we would be completely and utterly heart broken...and it's really hard for me to even think about that ending.  But I know in my heart that adoption is a second choice, that God intended for kids to be raised by the parents that gave birth to them.  So, I will also be praying if there is any possible way that her birth mom can raise her and give her a love-filled home...that she would go home with her mom tonight. 

 

If she does relinquish her rights, we will be on our plane 48 hours from now!  My brain is pounding for all the prep work, but it'll be worth it when we get to hold that sweet little girl...

Thursday, December 22, 2011

This is a test....it is only a test...

Apparently Blogger is banned by the government, so I'm testing out email posting and hopefully that'll work for me to be able to post while we're over there.  (We leave in SIX days!!)  Testing out posting pics too, so here's as much of her as we're allowed to show right now!

 

Thursday, December 8, 2011

I Had Christmas Down in Africa...

You know that acapella song "12 days" by Straight No Chaser?  The one that goes through the 12 days of Christmas and then randomly throws in "I had Christmas down in Africa"?  That's my new theme song for this season.  Why?  Because I'm having Christmas down in Africa this year!

We got our court date today...it's January 2nd!  That means we leave in like THREE WEEKS to meet our daughter and we'll likely be there for Ethiopian Christmas on January 7th!  How amazing is that??!

Sorry to keep this so short, but I now have a million new things to get done on top of the million I already had to do before Christmas!!  :)

Monday, November 14, 2011

We've seen her, we're smitten...now what?

What happens next?  The question I hear (and love answering!) at least a couple times each day.  The answer is, again, we wait!

Our paperwork is all ready to go, it just needs to be translated into Amharic (the predominant language in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia).  Then we get submitted to court and wait to be assigned a court date.  (This may actually have already happened...the agency is getting confirmation.)  Right now the court dates going out are for the end of December, so we're hoping for January.  (Ethiopia celebrates Christmas on January 7th this year...how amazing would it be to be there for that??!)  If I had to guess though, I'd say it's more likely to be end of January/beginning of February.

So we'll travel over for Ethiopian court...get to spend lots of time getting to know our little lady in the orphanage and hopefully take a little extra time to see some of the amazing country she's from as well.  On this trip we also hope to meet her birth mother, which makes me a little teary just thinking about her heart through all of this.

Then we say goodbye and head back home without our little girl,which makes me a little teary thinking about my heart through all of this.  The US embassy will then investigate our case and once they give their clearance and issue her Visa we can head back over again to bring her back to her new home.  This can take anywhere from 6 weeks to 4+ months...but it's definitely going to be on the shorter end of the spectrum, right??!

There's still a lot that can go amiss between now and that super long plane ride home with our baby girl...so please pray for a smooth process with as few bumps in the road as possible.  Will let you know when we have news of a court date!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Chapter 3

First came the document gathering, or as many adoptive parents affectionately refer to it, "the paper chase".  Being a complete Type A, I actually kind of enjoyed that process and was able to fly through it in a couple months. 

Then came the waitlist.  The first year wasn't bad at all.  Our agency had estimated it would be 12-18 months...so that first year, while it was always in the forefront of my prayers, it was in the back of my mind.  However, the closer we got to the tops of the lists the harder the wait got...and to be completely honest the last couple months have been extremely emotional.  Thankfully I have the best husband ever...and he was kind enough not to ask me if I needed medication (though I'm quite certain it crossed his mind).  ;)

Let's see, where does that leave us?  Oh yes...Chapter 3...the REFERRAL!!!!

October 25, 2011, the day we first saw a picture of the little girl we hope to become our daughter.  The boys and I were having a playdate at a neighbor's house when Steve called from work.  Our coordinator was on the other line and he wanted to conference her in...what?!?  I was already shaking as she went on (forever!) about some paperwork that is about to expire and then finally said the words I'd been waiting over 16 months to hear, "there's a 5 month old baby girl that needs a home".  She went over the information they have on her for the next 10 minutes or so...or at least that's what I imagine she was talking about, I don't think I heard a word of it!  (Thankfully she emailed it all to us as well.)

Did I mention that Steve was at work?  And that it was about 11:30?  And that we had agreed to look at the pictures together?  Longest day of my life!

She was worth the wait though!  Big eyes, huge chubby cheeks, soft brown curls...beautiful.  I'm not allowed to share her picture or any identifying information on the Internet until we pass Ethiopian court, so you'll have to settle for this pic of her cute little hand until I see you in person.  ;)

I'll do another post soon on what the next steps are...but just wanted to say thanks again for all the love and support!  Steve and I are truly blessed to have you as friends and family in this crazy journey.


Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Help for Older Boys...

Our agency's care center in Ethiopia currently has three wonderful boys who have been waiting over a year for a family to call them their own. OVER A YEAR. Think about that for a minute. As they have watched other children leave with parents—they have waited. and waited. Just because they are ‘older.’
Parents that come and pick up their kids leave burdened for these sweet boys.

Their ages are 8, 9, and 10 and here is a bit about them.
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T – T is a quiet boy who likes to play with his friends. He has a calm and friendly personality that one might see as being shy, but after he warms up to someone he is more outgoing, kind and friendly.


T likes to be active and play soccer with his buddies. He is good at sharing and is kind to the younger children at the Care Center.


L-L is an adorable little guy who loves to have fun! He can be shy around adults but is friendly with the other children. He loves to play cars and enjoys trying to make one-on-one conversations with visiting adults. Showing off what English he is learning.


Z-Z is a very compassionate boy. He is always looking out for the younger boys at the Care Center. He is seen as a big brother to every one there and is sweet to every one.


Z is fun and loves to play games with his friends. He is not over powering for attention but is willing to wait his turn.
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Several adoptive parents in our agency have become so smitten with these boys they have decided to host an online silent auction to raise funds for grants for the families that step forward to give these boys a home and family.

It will be from mid-November to December 1st. (just in time for your Christmas shopping!)

We would love to have you help us! Right now we are in the stage of gathering items to put in the auction (the website will be http://www.tlcfortlz.blogspot.com/ It’s in process right now )

Would you be willing to donate something?

Here is how it works:

1. You let me know if you would be willing to donate. Email us at ianwaitingchild@gmail.com with what you would like to donate! Then, just sit back and relax!

2. We will create a blog post about your item, including a description and picture, a minimum bid price, and a link over to your etsy page/website/blog so they can check out the other fabulous things that you do!

Look for it on http://www.tlcfortlz.blogspot.com/

3. We are planning to open the auction mid November and end it on Dec 1 (just in time for Christmas!) Readers will bid on your fantastic donation!

4. When the auction closes we will e-mail the winner to get their mailing address. Then, we will send you the address.

5. So the only thing you have to do is mail them the prize!

Also, after the auction closes, We will write a post encouraging bidders who bid on your item and did not win to go check out your etsy page/website/blog! Hopefully this will bring you a lot of free publicity.

The sweet boys get advocated for and families get a grant. Win-Win.

Feel free to email me with any questions or ideas!!


PS. If you’d like to inquire about these waiting children or any others that are currently waiting:

Email waitingkids@internationaladoptionnet.org

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

One Year Ago...

One year ago today we finally finished our dossier paperwork and went on the waitlist at #61 for infant girl and #24 for siblings.
  To be honest, it's hard to believe it's been a year already!  I doubt many in the adoption world would say their time on the waitlist flew by, but it really has for me.  (So far!)  We joined the waitlist long before we were actually ready for a referral, hoping by the time we were ready we'd be towards the top of the list.  Well, today I can finally say with complete confidence...I am ready!  We're moving to our new house next week (with an extra bedroom for 1 or 2 more kids) and our littlest man just turned 2 and is becoming less high maintenance every day. 


Moving will require us to update our homestudy (and pay more $, ugh), but shouldn't be a huge deal.  So, bring on the referral!  Today we're #13 (#5) on infant girl and #4 (#1) on siblings!

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Getting Close!

Yes, I've been a bad blogger...so I thought I should at least update where we are in the process.  It's been an active few weeks and right now we're sitting at #4 for siblings and #15 for infant girl. 

One aspect of the waitlists that I should probably mention is there are families that are "on hold" as well.  This can be because they've gotten pregnant while waiting, having financial issues, personal problems they need to iron out, etc.  They can stay on the lists and move up, but can't accept a referral until they are able to come off hold status.  Although it can change at any time, right now I believe there are 8 families on hold in front of us on the baby girl list and 3 families on the siblings list.  Sooooo...if you take them out of the equation, we're unofficially #1 on siblings and #7 on baby girl!! 

Our referral could be anywhere from next week to next year (given the ebb and flow of this process), but thinking it'll be sooner rather than later!

Thursday, January 20, 2011

The "Other" List...

So, by now everyone knows we're on the infant girl list...that's the list we talk about, blog about and think about daily.  What you may or may not know is that we're also on another waitlist.  The sibling list.  That's right, there is a possibility that we could be bringing not 1, but 2 beautiful kids home from Ethiopia!  Is that thought making you hyperventilate and causing your hands to shake uncontrollably?  Probably not, but it did have that effect on us and that's why we've kind of swept it under the rug and put it way in the back of our minds.

At the beginning of this journey we struggled with wondering if our daughter would feel connected living here in a primarily white city, as part of a very white family.  We thought that possibly having a sibling with the same background would help with that feeling of "belonging" as they grow older.  So, we also joined the sibling list, requesting infant twins...not because we thought it was something we realistically wanted, but because we couldn't ignore that Whisper in our ears.

Now, as the sibling list moves closer and closer, we've had to do some soul searching and think about if we could really handle 4 kids and what effect that would have on our family unit (besides the obvious of needing a bigger house and car!).  In the end, we both came to the same conclusion that having 2 birth and 2 adopted kids would be amazing and challenging and fun and insane and ultimately sooooo worth it!  I'm not sure what changed in us, or why...but now (most days!) I think we're secretly rooting for the siblings list...so much so that we changed our request to any siblings under 36 months.  It's important to us that Colby stays the oldest sibling, but otherwise we're wide open!

Obviously, young siblings don't come along all that often so it's still a toss up on which waitlist we'll get our referral from...but as of today we're #30 on infant girl and excited to say we're #8 on siblings!!  We can't wait to see God's plan unveil!

Friday, January 7, 2011

Merry Christmas!

Today is Christmas in Ethiopia!  As we inch closer to seeing our daughter (#34 now) I find myself wanting to learn more and more about the culture and history of her birth country.  Here's a little info on how Christmas is celebrated in Ethiopia (copied from TLC Family). As more than half of the country is Christian, Christmas is a major celebration for them with Christ, rightfully, at the center of it all.

Christmas Traditions in Ethiopia


Ethiopia is one of the oldest nations in Africa. It still follows the ancient Julian calendar, so Ethiopians celebrate Christmas on January 7. The Ethiopian Orthodox Church's celebration of Christ's birth is called Ganna. It is a day when families attend church.

The day before Ganna, people fast all day. The next morning at dawn, everyone dresses in white. Most Ethiopians don a traditional shamma, a thin, white cotton wrap with brightly colored stripes across the ends. The shamma is worn somewhat like a toga. Urban Ethiopians might put on white Western garb. Then everyone goes to the early mass at four o'clock in the morning. In a celebration that takes place several days later, the priests will dress in turbans and red and white robes as they carry beautifully embroidered fringed umbrellas.

Most Ethiopians who live outside the modern capital city, Addis Ababa, live in round mud-plastered houses with cone-shaped roofs of thatched straw. In areas where stone is plentiful, the houses may be rectangular stone houses. The churches in Ethiopia echo the shape of the houses. In many parts of the country there are ancient churches carved out of solid volcanic rock. Modern churches are built in three concentric circles.

In a modern church, the choir assembles in the outer circle. Each person entering the church is given a candle. The congregation walks around the church three times in a solemn procession, holding the flickering candles. Then they gather in the second circle to stand throughout the long mass, with the men and boys separated from the women and girls. The center circle is the holiest space in the church, where the priest serves Holy Communion.

Around the time of Ganna, the men and boys play a game that is also called ganna. It is somewhat like hockey, played with a curved stick and a round wooden ball.

The foods enjoyed during the Christmas season include wat, a thick, spicy stew of meat, vegetables, and sometimes eggs as well. The wat is served from a beautifully decorated watertight basket onto a "plate" of injera, which is flat sourdough bread. Pieces of injera are used as an edible spoon to scoop up the wat.

Twelve days after Ganna, on January 19, Ethiopians begin the three-day celebration called Timkat, which commemorates the baptism of Christ. The children walk to church services in a procession. They wear the crowns and robes of the church youth groups they belong to. The grown-ups wear the shamma. The priests will now wear their red and white robes and carry embroidered fringed umbrellas.

The music of Ethiopian instruments makes the Timkat procession a very festive event. The sistrum is a percussion instrument with tinkling metal disks. A long, T-shaped prayer stick called a makamiya taps out the walking beat and also serves as a support for the priest during the long church service that follows. Church officials called dabtaras study hard to learn the musical chants, melekets, for the ceremony.

Ethiopian men play another sport called yeferas guks. They ride on horseback and throw ceremonial lances at each other.

Ganna and Timkat are not occasions for giving gifts in Ethiopia. If a child receives any gift at all, it is usually a small gift of clothing. Religious observances, feasting, and games are the focus of the season.